Over the past few weeks here on the blog, we’ve covered dealing with insecurity, letting go of comparison, dealing with jealousy and clearing your life of the low-key haters. Working on these issues are great steps in taking on a winner’s mindset.
There is no going forward if you are laden with negative thoughts and toxic people. It’s rough, I know. You’ll get uncomfortable, you’ll lose friendships and even isolate family members but this life is yours to live.
Below are 4 ways to get yourself in girl boss mode by taking on a winner’s mindset.
The first step in taking on a winner’s mindset is convincing yourself that you are a winner.
If you’re struggling with anything, it’s a good idea to remind yourself that whatever you are going after is worth it and you are fully capable of making it happen. You may stumble, get side-tracked (shiny object syndrome), feel frustrated and overwhelmed but it’s all part of your journey. In those moments when I get frustrated I have to remind myself that it’s ok to want the success. I’m working hard for it and I deserve it. A good practice is to remember your why and envision what would change if you were successful.
Winners take risks and celebrate the rewards.
How would you know if you can succeed at something if you never try anything? Take a chance at something you always wanted to try. Some of the most successful people took a leap of faith to get where they are today. No one wants to live with regret. Wouldn’t you want to be the grandma who says to her grandkids: “I remember when I tried this thing. It didn’t really work out how I wanted but I learned a great lesson.” or “I met some awesome friends from that experience.” Take the leap! You’re a winner for just trying.
To be successful you have to ditch the pessimism.
My bf likes to tell me I worry too much. Which is true. One bad thing happening sometimes makes me think everything else is going to go wrong. At those times I have to stop myself and say it’s going to work out; I got this.
So do you. Don’t let your negative thoughts take over. There’s usually a way to turn around a bad situation. I like this quote: If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan but never the goal.” A pessimist will say, “Oh it’s not working out and it probably never will.” Kick that thought to the curb. If plan A doesn’t work…
Always be learning something.
When it comes to success, confidence plays a big part. For me, I feel a lot more sure about my chances if I know what I’m about. Winners are constantly finding ways to improve their knowledge base and skill set. I read a lot. If I’m not reading something, I’m probably writing. Since starting as a freelance writer, I thought I knew enough but as time has progressed I’ve realized I have to learn more. That way I can confidently say I have knowledge about a topic. If it’s not something I’m familiar with then I’m willing to learn about that too.
Yoda said, “Do or do not. There is no try.” When it comes to adapting a winner’s mindset you just have to tell yourself you’re doing it. It’s all or nothing. Every small step you take today towards your goal and your definition of success is better than someone who is telling themselves they will start tomorrow. When we make a habit of uplifting ourselves success is much closer.
Hit me up in the comments with your tips on getting into boss mode.