I remember when I had my first business I tried to do everything by myself. I didn’t have anyone to bounce ideas off of, anyone to hold me accountable, anyone to assist me with small projects, anyone to read over my material and I had very few people to provide moral support.
When I say I tried to be superwoman, I’m not kidding…smh!
Not only was that an epic fail, but it led to EPIC OVERWHELM.
I was literally burned out and always felt alone. Things got really bad when I lost my job and had to move back home. I wasn’t used to depending on people and it was hard for me ask for help even though I needed it. I became very prideful and very ashamed – so much so that I fell into a depression.
It was that whole experience that made me realize that my independence was a curse! LOL
I came to grips with the fact that if I were going to thrive in life and in biz I had to STOP TRYING TO DO IT ALLL ALONE!
And that’s when I got serious about building my tribe.
As the saying goes, ‘we truly are better together’. So today I’m sharing major keys AND major steps to finding your tribe.
The major keys on Finding your tribe:
- It takes time to build relationships, so patience is key.
- You gotta give a little, to receive. When looking to build your tribe keep in mind how you can add value to or help those you’re looking to connect with.
- Tribe building is about building quality and authentic relationships. If the vibe is off, don’t force it.
- It’s important to be your authentic self. Don’t shift YOU in hopes of connect with someone.
The major steps to FINDING your tribe:
Reach out to those in your industry and suggest collaborating on a project.
This can be anything from co-writing a book, co-hosting a twitter chat, exchanging a shout out on each others social pages, or co-creating an event, workshop, or a class, etc. Be sure to keep in mind how both parties will win as a result of the collaboration.
Attend locaL events that are specific to your industry.
You can quickly find local events by going on Eventbrite or Meetup and typing in relevant key words in the search field. For instance, if you’re looking for local blogging events, you may search “blogging Atlanta or blogger Atlanta”. When you’re at the events be sure to make it a goal to connect with 1 or 2 people. Don’t overwhelm yourself with trying to be friends with everyone. Simply seek to build 1-2 solid relationships. And don’t forget to follow-up (suggesting a tea/coffee dates, for example) to learn more about their work and to continue to grow the relationship.
Participate in online challenges, twitter chats, engage in Facebook Groups.
If you’re looking to make friends online, it’s always a good idea to participate in “group activities” online. My new favorite way to do this is by participating in Twitter chats. Twitter chats chat are usually super fun – the participants bring such great energy and they are generally open to making new connections.
Fly Girl, Carla Thomas of The Fly Girl Guide and I have a dope #HerFlyReality Twitter Chat – “Springtime Fine: Letting Go So You Can Glo-Up – coming up on the 17th. We’d love to have you join us. Check the deets on the flyer below.
Outside of Twitter chats you can always participate in challenges, giveaways, and/or join industry specific Facebook groups. If you happen to be a blogger looking to join a dope group of new and rising bloggers, I invite you to join the Her Blog Rocks Community here.
Volunteer for an organization who has a mission that you connect with.
I haven’t done this as of late, but it’s certainly on my list of things to do. Why? Because what better way to build connections than through your acts of service.
Are there other ways that you have gone about building your tribe? Are you planning to use any tips provided today? We’d love to hear. Share with us below.